To Mothers, Care, and Nurturing


I’m at my wits end about money spinning doctors. The purpose of care stems from selflessness. I believe its most effective too, when it is done from nurturing spirit, like that of a Mother, especially Mother Nature.

I do understand overhead expenses on the infrastructure and technology needed to support the doctors offices for giving care. But, why must non-business people have to pay for their fancy perks?
Considering that we all have professions which need our time, study, skill, and sacrifice. Every skill is important but society judges payment based on popularity of skill set, or supply and demand. A useless numbers game?
None of this logic appeals to teaching or artists. People know it is a giving spirit that does these jobs, so it is literally expected that they do the job for less. And for people who want to keep things simple, nurturing, and giving, it is even less so.
Unless you are greedy for money, or have a brand name, you must not be good enough in your ability to teach or produce artwork?
At the same time, it is very heartening to know, that it is still possible to find people who will share their skill ‘just like that’, spontaneously, simply because you expressed interest. Two years ago, in one trip, I learned how to make a simple leather bag and decorate a leather journal for free, on the spur of the moment, from two giving artists/small business operators. Not that I had to start a business, but because it’s amazing what people can do and I’d like to do it atleast once.
There are places you can find giving people, but it’s a membership, affiliation, association, board of directors, and push for enrollment thing. And that works well, except there’s money involved at some level; either hopes, aspirations, investment, numbers enrolled, or classes.
There some Doctors who will do good in other countries and go above and beyond, in helping human beings just because it is the right thing to do. That is rather an exception, than the rule.
I cannot speak for them, just myself. I try to teach from the spirit, without greed, for the good of, but firm on my expectations from students. No exchange of material things to generate love or reinforce good behaviour. I’m not sure it’s enough, so I just keep plugging along.
Finally, I would like to €mpha$ize dental care: don’t bite off more than you can chew. 😄Flo$£ Dail¥! All traditional knowledge has now been officially trashed by modern trained doctors who will convince you the only thing for you is to get treatment right away from them or people they refer you to.
Being subjected to their wisdom, tools, sales tactics and bills right now😉! Time to test creativity on practical matters. Please excuse my absence until things get better.

On Mother’s Day, I pray for those mothers and children: who are not educated, who understand less of the commercial powers of the world, and who struggle to survive on this same Mother Earth.
Happy Mother’s Day to All!

Better (the) Lifestyle!

Lifestyle bettered!

Wake up reluctant
remote click turn on
sounds of an idiot box
modern term: Smart Box.
Eat from box
unbrushed and unruly of
breaking a fast,
Maybe even bath.
Dragging feet,
Cell ‘n’ games.
Getting ready for school,
Roll off bed
Shirt inside out,
Zipper open,
Backpack at home,
Shoes in bag,
Clothing rag.
Books in hand,
Eyes so sleepy-
Feet uncoordinated.
Creativity suggests laugh,
Let it happen
life is rough.
?Tablet solutions for all!
Pacifier screen in hand,
hyper-senses calming within.
Meals in haste-
emphasizing taste.
Chips and sweets
Updates and tweets.
Lifestyle Millennium!!!
Precious Life and health-
Victimized by convenience
Ease easy into habits;
socially rapid rabids.
Life’s pace is a mace
in our own face.
Better still,
is ignorance-
an unknown ill!
“I know it all” reeks
Confidence so Young
bent yet on the anvil.

Better the Lifestyle.

The 👑 King, 🐓-Less egg

I am Pleased to inform you
That Man has used his intelligence
To distinguish humans in evolution, hence.
Now is ready to relinquish the title mute,
Sliding down the list to extinguish its repute.

The distinguishing quality from other species, you ask?
To make an utter fool of our own species,
Faking Nature: flowers, art, emotions.
And now even food
The egg!

The reason, you ask?
The logic?
Or, ill~ of it.
Simply for,
making it count,
more numbers of
coloured paper,
with number on it,
made from pulp,
fiber, and





“Between HELL and HEAL, there’s really only

the difference of one letter.” Thinkinkadia

You see, L in hell is Learning to ignore what people say about you.
A in heal is a right now Acceptance of you!

It’s like a game of scrabble, when you give a pass to nonsensical stuff in your life, switch out the letters, then there is a whole 💞NEW WOR(L)D!


All the better to cope with you, dear Life;)


Benefits of waking up with the Sun: 

you COPE better early, than late!
  Concentration.  Oxygen.  Peace.  Exhilarate

    Since early morning rising is important to me, I remembered this morning how beneficial it was for me and wrote down what I get out of it, in a formula form. The funny part is my habits changed after marrying a late night family, and I am now trying to emerge from residual habits. I used to be up at 5:30 am for a walk or horse-riding before college or work everyday, depending on where I was in life at the time. I remember the cool, crisp, and fresh air; the peace in tune with silence and nature; and people calmly getting started with their mornings, the fields, and flowers greeting the sun with joy.

And me, getting my mind and body in sync for the day, without realizing it;)

 Credit: Thanks to my fellow bloggers: Settleinelpaso team. They wrote a nice piece on early rising and being better organized at work.

🌿Neem-Hakeem⛑ Passport to Good Health!

Neem, Azadirachta indica: Native to South Asia, neem is a cure-all. Well, almost! You can read details on two links provided below. For me, I can tell you my experience when last year after being to a dentist, I got a dental infection. Now who wants to go right back, so after bringing down the pain for two days, I thought of using neem, because I don’t normally use painkillers for anything usual. Result was pain went down in two doses of one tsp each. In three days of having neem powder for thrice a day with a whole glass of water with it (I swish it directly in mouth to mix-well with water), the infection was 100% gone. Now it is S.O.P., standard operating procedure. Greatly beneficial to skin, blood purification, diabetes control, and many more diseases, my family has a lot of respect for Neem. (Hakeem is the word for local doctor). Warning: It has side-effects, including making amusing theatrical faces, because it is very bitter, but then most good things in life are😉

Haldi, turmeric root, curcuma longa. For this too, lot of details are given in the links below. I just want to highlight that I pretty much, do not visit the doctor more than once a year. We traditionally have this powder as part of staple South-Asian  diet. But also as a super medicine, taken internally and externally. Effective first aid and antiseptic! This is what we rely on for all cough, colds, ear-piercing, and minor injuries. Best way to take it is with honey or sugar in hot milk at bed-time, and keep chest warm after that.

I’ve even used turmeric in warm oil for massaging my week old dislocated thumb and doing home therapy to activate range of motion (found a good instruction video on youtube😉) without going to a doctor. Please do not try this at home unless you gain enough experience of your own.

Enjoy your Passport to Good Health!

Spoonful of Whatarchy?

Say this tounge twister fast, RAPIDO! “Betsy Botsom bought some butter, but the butter was bitter. So Betsy Botsom bought some better butter to make the bitter butter better.”

While Betsys of the world make things better for everyone in the family or community, the World had to celebrate an International Women’s day to make things better- for all the Betsys themselves. We’ve literally tongue-twisted ourselves with so much we could have, should have, would have done for women. East or West, Betsy or Anamika, it’s the woman who creates and makes things work.

When the Statue of Liberty lights went out, and there was much speculation as Twitter was abuzz, alight, and about; as if that was symbolic of going on a strike to protest against the nasty judgements made on women’s freedom. A woman does not get elected post Thatcher in the Western world, even though Hillary Clinton tried twice, some blah about the emails came about. E-mails vs. Russia vs. Businesses receiving donations! And whatarchy revealed itself.

A fashion show in Bangladesh had fourteen acid-attack victims cat-walking the ramp. Several others have been held in recent years, and amazing pictures and you tubes are alive with the colors that beautiful gutsy women, brought to the fore. Portraits of women who dared to speak their mind and a much less-confident-of-a-man decides to give an acidic consequence to straighten her out.

It’s this so-called Patriarchy-Matriarchy buzzwords for supremacy. The only thing to be done is clicking delete on the concept and words Matriarchy and Patriarchy. We have to decide is human evolution going to be about progress or stagnation. Have we plateaued as thinking and performing human beings?

In my opinion it begins with our Gods. (I apologize ahead of time since my intent is to explore what puts women down, not explore which religion is right here). Since we have Male Gods and Female Gods, I feel some cultures can accept women in the lead, others cannot. What is surprising is when it comes to a criminal mind, these conventional trends in thought do not apply. Thus, I cannot explain why some countries who have female goddesses to look up to, engage in demeaning behaviors towards women, except that the weak want to feel powerful, however that may be possible, and I have seen this in east and west.

I have been the only woman in couple of my assignment locations in pre-married family life and know that it isn’t easy. One senior official even had the audacity to ask me with a twisted smile something to the effect, “Being a woman, you have an advantage in getting information,”  his eyes alight with conjecture on my future roles I might perform for his department. The Jerk! I’m not a James Bond Associate, just a simple researcher. But we women can take on the form of Goddess Durga^, Rani of Jhansi#,  or any Superwoman if a situation requires.

Several situations in face of adversity in the days before cell phones taught me three options that one can ignore, be boring and safe, or be tough head on. All three attitudes saved me many a time, but I continued to take nervous risks, which made men think that either you are available (willing to try anything) or foolish to tread unusual grounds. From ignoring male college students jeering , “Why wear white* while we are there for you,” shoving an exploring briefcase backwards into an old lech in a crowded public transport, elbowing jerks who falls on you every time a bus brakes (very common), biting an attacker (I’d heard that human bite is more dangerous than a dogs’😉), getting people to level a landslide for vehicles to move instead of waiting for machines to come by, insisting on a bus-driver to stick to his route inspite of changing it based on low number of passengers, finding a bus late night with all male passengers to make it to my official commitment next early morning in a remote location, yelling at two drunk men for their safety, and coping with a lechy boss; trust me when I say that only the weak man or growing child will indulge in such behaviors towards a woman.

Once you know that, and you turn around and use the mother voice, in any decibel, it usually works. Hone your own instincts before you hold me accountable;) on this belief of mine: that in any culture, the weak want to feel powerful. So the choice is in your hands, to give the power or not, knowing that both help make or break relationships.

In a marriage it is harder to decipher this or fight it because there are so many variables involved. After trying to please, make things work, options one and two, when one hits an insensitive wall of people, men or women(sadly, yes), who want to win over you everyday, it is time to for option number three, be tough head on and protect yourself. It is the weak who want to, need to feel powerful. Including you! I cannot stress this enough that success in youth years is so important for dealing with other battles of life.

In my case, whats different is I don’t need to convert people to my way or put people down, to feel good about myself. I can give, that is, allow others space to feel good about what they can do and even encourage them. The concept of love or arranged marriage doesn’t guarantee the success of it. It’s the ingredients: the spoonful of stirrings, a little sweet, a little spice, a little success, a little failure, a little support, a little freedom, giving space for growth, and lots of togetherness.

Towards women’s empowerment, I find many organizations are doing a lot of good. In one experience I found some inconsistencies as in village women make things, and the products are sold in the city by men. Women don’t need crutches or money, they need experience. The women who produce the merchandise should be allowed to manage the store in rotation. And that is what I said to the men, who were very sweet, respectful, and on prompting, even thought of asking his mother or sister, for the first time ever, what she wishes for.

Being a woman is not a minority.

Being a woman is not a handicap.

Being a woman is not an appeal for equality.

Being a Woman is being Nature. Nature gives, for sure. You must give back to Nature, otherwise Nature can shake the earth, seas, and skies.

Meet Life Head On, Betsy!

Meet Life Head On, Anamika!

Say No to Nervousness and fear.

P.S.* White is symbolic of mourning, so the boys were implying that why dress like a widow, when we are there for you. In a sing-song voice, it even generated giggles;) from some.

^ Goddess Durga: symbolic of strength, one who is invincible.

# Rani of Jhansi: An Indian queen who fought a war on horseback, sword and all, to save her Kingdom.

Shine on Women: Inside ‘n’ Out!

Have a Glitter riffic Day! 

OR, Not?


Has this picture changed your mind?

Scary but true. I always stayed away from glitter, didn’t feel good around it. And now we know why?!! Imagine what it does to children, who wouldn’t even know about breathing in this like passive smoking!

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