O to the Beheaders

Which God promotes it?
Every religion has done it.
Dark ages, stark ages,
We are failing all our sages.
The mankind,
thru human unkind.

Does nature allow it,
As a way to give peace?
Does being civilized allow it
As a way to balance populace?

Is it an accomplished (un)kind of feeling
as you slice a human head and send it reeling?
Is beheading the beheader the logical punishment?
Is slicing up people a way to get
heavenly commitment?

Ask the designer of these techniques inhuman,
Or the trainer of intelligent agencies super-human:
Have you dominated enough of those near?
Instilled enough fear in your not so dear?

How do you make people forget
these murdering thrills;
your desired treat you now get?
They’re still cooking the hills-
generations after you got your
piece of cake, hors-d’oeuvre.

Habits that kill hard,
DIE hard.

While you move on true.
Dominate, justify too.
Weapons and commerce –
scores, medals, purpose.
Peace of mind or land won?
Peace be within you when done.



Roaming-exploring-evolving DNA: Stagnant?


Would it be prudent to ask if our diverse institutions, especially that of religion, of the longest standing, whichever faith any of us belong to, is meeting our needs for growth and evolution as human(e) beings?

Every religion has been through a process of birth, growth, and change in its own evolution. It has brought us to this point where we are still striving for understanding our own species with tolerance of varying degrees.

As human beings, we must in our lives, change with the times, and in our later years grow in detachment from earthly dependencies. Right?

Shouldn’t Religion as a major institution, also do the same for its growth. Don’t you think it must guide us out of consumerism? Infact, it must set an example by freeing itself from its own wants, needs, and competition.

Obviously then, religion must not be a game of numbers. Therefore, how do we evolve with religion to guide people to the next higher level of human evolution, which cannot be in the realm of competition.

(b)Raving Fortune!


1. Fortune favours the Brave,

    Even if they do not shave.

    Thinkinkadia (multicultural, gender)

2. When I open my next fortune cookie, I would like to see:

“New Earth Law  necessitates women leaders who will run their country like a home: there will be discipline, creativity, problem-solving, consideration for all, food for all, peace, and love.”

What would like to see in your fortune cookie?

River: Corporation or Living Being?

You may have come across the news item that the Maori’s have obtained legal status for their Whanganui river, New Zealand, of a Human. I read comments that mocked the people for their choice and idiocity of the whole idea, and so on. What I hear is a beautiful concept that allows people to respect their natural resource, treasure it for it’s unconditional giving and nurturing abilities, and moves people, literally and figuratively!

When we don’t understand a concept, human beings tend to fear it or mock it or change it. I’m sure if I pull up more literature on it, some more technical variables and vocabulary will pop up. But my goal is to simplify, not produce jargon heavy material that never reaches 98% of the worlds’ population.

Many cultures have evolved fearing, respecting, or worshipping Mother Nature in some form or the other. We have seen it through civilized logic for way too long. The older perspective has survived colonialism, and other dominating cultures for a reason. What if, to keep to the margins of the Maori example today, we ask the people of New Zealand and try to understand the cultural sentiment from someone who understands the modern and Maori perspectives?

Whether a people respect God in Church or in Natural features or even in animal species, that is their belief and interpretation. Much has been lost in inconsiderate translation and international standardization endeavours over the centuries. Domination didn’t work, Hitlerism didn’t work either, and mockery is trending right now- for better or worse.

Question is: Is mockery the new way to dominate after colonialism, hitlerisms, and corporation culture transmitted through trainings?

The way I rationalize is that at least we are having conversations about each other’s beliefs … sometime’s even nastiness, as in current immigration and refugee discussions in Europe and America. In time, these conversations might evolve along with us and I hope we get talking about each other’s strengths.

Are we expressing Massive disrespect for belief systems that have survived Millenia?!

Spoonful of Whatarchy?

Say this tounge twister fast, RAPIDO! “Betsy Botsom bought some butter, but the butter was bitter. So Betsy Botsom bought some better butter to make the bitter butter better.”

While Betsys of the world make things better for everyone in the family or community, the World had to celebrate an International Women’s day to make things better- for all the Betsys themselves. We’ve literally tongue-twisted ourselves with so much we could have, should have, would have done for women. East or West, Betsy or Anamika, it’s the woman who creates and makes things work.

When the Statue of Liberty lights went out, and there was much speculation as Twitter was abuzz, alight, and about; as if that was symbolic of going on a strike to protest against the nasty judgements made on women’s freedom. A woman does not get elected post Thatcher in the Western world, even though Hillary Clinton tried twice, some blah about the emails came about. E-mails vs. Russia vs. Businesses receiving donations! And whatarchy revealed itself.

A fashion show in Bangladesh had fourteen acid-attack victims cat-walking the ramp. Several others have been held in recent years, and amazing pictures and you tubes are alive with the colors that beautiful gutsy women, brought to the fore. Portraits of women who dared to speak their mind and a much less-confident-of-a-man decides to give an acidic consequence to straighten her out.

It’s this so-called Patriarchy-Matriarchy buzzwords for supremacy. The only thing to be done is clicking delete on the concept and words Matriarchy and Patriarchy. We have to decide is human evolution going to be about progress or stagnation. Have we plateaued as thinking and performing human beings?

In my opinion it begins with our Gods. (I apologize ahead of time since my intent is to explore what puts women down, not explore which religion is right here). Since we have Male Gods and Female Gods, I feel some cultures can accept women in the lead, others cannot. What is surprising is when it comes to a criminal mind, these conventional trends in thought do not apply. Thus, I cannot explain why some countries who have female goddesses to look up to, engage in demeaning behaviors towards women, except that the weak want to feel powerful, however that may be possible, and I have seen this in east and west.

I have been the only woman in couple of my assignment locations in pre-married family life and know that it isn’t easy. One senior official even had the audacity to ask me with a twisted smile something to the effect, “Being a woman, you have an advantage in getting information,”  his eyes alight with conjecture on my future roles I might perform for his department. The Jerk! I’m not a James Bond Associate, just a simple researcher. But we women can take on the form of Goddess Durga^, Rani of Jhansi#,  or any Superwoman if a situation requires.

Several situations in face of adversity in the days before cell phones taught me three options that one can ignore, be boring and safe, or be tough head on. All three attitudes saved me many a time, but I continued to take nervous risks, which made men think that either you are available (willing to try anything) or foolish to tread unusual grounds. From ignoring male college students jeering , “Why wear white* while we are there for you,” shoving an exploring briefcase backwards into an old lech in a crowded public transport, elbowing jerks who falls on you every time a bus brakes (very common), biting an attacker (I’d heard that human bite is more dangerous than a dogs’😉), getting people to level a landslide for vehicles to move instead of waiting for machines to come by, insisting on a bus-driver to stick to his route inspite of changing it based on low number of passengers, finding a bus late night with all male passengers to make it to my official commitment next early morning in a remote location, yelling at two drunk men for their safety, and coping with a lechy boss; trust me when I say that only the weak man or growing child will indulge in such behaviors towards a woman.

Once you know that, and you turn around and use the mother voice, in any decibel, it usually works. Hone your own instincts before you hold me accountable;) on this belief of mine: that in any culture, the weak want to feel powerful. So the choice is in your hands, to give the power or not, knowing that both help make or break relationships.

In a marriage it is harder to decipher this or fight it because there are so many variables involved. After trying to please, make things work, options one and two, when one hits an insensitive wall of people, men or women(sadly, yes), who want to win over you everyday, it is time to for option number three, be tough head on and protect yourself. It is the weak who want to, need to feel powerful. Including you! I cannot stress this enough that success in youth years is so important for dealing with other battles of life.

In my case, whats different is I don’t need to convert people to my way or put people down, to feel good about myself. I can give, that is, allow others space to feel good about what they can do and even encourage them. The concept of love or arranged marriage doesn’t guarantee the success of it. It’s the ingredients: the spoonful of stirrings, a little sweet, a little spice, a little success, a little failure, a little support, a little freedom, giving space for growth, and lots of togetherness.

Towards women’s empowerment, I find many organizations are doing a lot of good. In one experience I found some inconsistencies as in village women make things, and the products are sold in the city by men. Women don’t need crutches or money, they need experience. The women who produce the merchandise should be allowed to manage the store in rotation. And that is what I said to the men, who were very sweet, respectful, and on prompting, even thought of asking his mother or sister, for the first time ever, what she wishes for.

Being a woman is not a minority.

Being a woman is not a handicap.

Being a woman is not an appeal for equality.

Being a Woman is being Nature. Nature gives, for sure. You must give back to Nature, otherwise Nature can shake the earth, seas, and skies.

Meet Life Head On, Betsy!

Meet Life Head On, Anamika!

Say No to Nervousness and fear.

P.S.* White is symbolic of mourning, so the boys were implying that why dress like a widow, when we are there for you. In a sing-song voice, it even generated giggles;) from some.

^ Goddess Durga: symbolic of strength, one who is invincible.

# Rani of Jhansi: An Indian queen who fought a war on horseback, sword and all, to save her Kingdom.

🗣Death to Labels☠️ Stereotypes😉

“My heart beat quickens in anticipation of a possibility that every person who calls themselves a minority, might today be convinced that they are not.” Thinkinkadia

This word, minority has been a rage for the last few months. If you break it up it reads: Mine-Or-Itty•Bitty. If you translate it from Thinkinkadia english to regular english, it reads “Either it’s Mine and thus important, OR it is IttyBitty, thus insignificant.”

Who does this word, Minority, refer to?

Tribals. Natives. Children. Women. Farmers. Immigrants. Small community. Ugly. Pretty. Tall. Short. Leaders. Movie stars. Writers. Under-writers. Artists. A race of people. Car-racers. Soldier. Doctor. Group of 10. Group of 1,00,000. People with non-mainstream preferences. People with common sense. Disabled. Presstitutes or Prostitutes. People speaking a different language. A religious group. Housewives. House-husbands. Teen professors. Inventors. Explorers. Weapon users. Fork users. Tailors. Rich. Literate. And so on.

I can only give my example to illustrate the point. Apparently, every person I’ve ever met, and trust me I meet on an average, a hundred a day, can be put in a box, or several boxes. Personally I face several stereotypes a day: woman, indian, must be good with kids, must be good at cooking, helpful (read: must be interested in the man), strict in class (read: must be abused), simple (read: dumb, she knows nothing), single woman (she’s telling …), and giving her phone number (Ooooo! she’s … ).

You know what happens when you try to put Jack or Jill in a box? They sprinnnng back up. Well, at this age, springy is not this-self, but I refuse to accept a single box. I’m greedy, I want lots of boxes. Thanks to many stereo’s, I have begun to see myself as a honeycomb. Lots of compartments, sweet results, and potential to bite if provoked to the extreme.😉

You see, it’s lovely what people reveal about themselves when they judge you and try to put you down into a box. What they often miss seeing is how the receiver processed the information after you finish.



Danced her way out of your space.


In my view what has happened is that in modern educated world, people not familiar with humility or simplicity, see: humility as a sign of weakness, silence as a sign of ignorance, not reacting to their mockery as so dumb. If you have a low profile day, without energy boosters and caffeine, and your vulnerability is visible plain as day, the listener points a finger delicately, as to say got that about you, the real you has been spotted by me!

Decode or ask me what I think and you will find that I’d rather ask questions to get to know your position better. I believe it’s called tolerance, empathy, acceptance of your opinion, and again, humility. I’ve done enough reacting, judging, knowing, etc. in my youth, and now I can connect with people’s phases, choices, ask questions to clarify, or choose not to take things as personal. Only difference is that I see it as a strength.

To get back to the opening line: If everyone can be defined with specific vocabulary to put in a box, then who all constitute Mainstream population?

My conclusion: The word itself is a hoax.


A Blurry Trend: Warming Up!

Tolerance, a fading ability, a seeming Blur, seems to be finally warming up in the heat of increasing intolerance, in the twenty first century. That’s encouraging for sure!

It may just be the tip of the iceberg, but hey, that’s what we need to see, to identify the land of hope close to it. Tip the hat, or showing respect in any form, in many cultures, is associated with the head or head gear. Most of the headgear was designed as a symbol of nobility, virginity, weather protection, hair protection, or even skull protection in war.

Maybe I’m generalizing too much, but I’m trying to simplify to a short, easy to remember rule of thumb about headgear between east and west expectations on headgear. (Scroll down to end if you don’t want details).

In the west, most cultures now wear simplified hats for fashion to match the event, outfit, or weather and remove it indoors to show respect. The indoors being air-conditioned, in most parts.

In the east, most cultures continue to wear head gear for functional or symbolic purposes. And since the purpose continues indoors, removal by will or force, is considered disrespectful.

There is a meeting ground in fashion, and if people have migrated, they continue to make changes and assimilate on their own. Dictated expectations cause conflict. The functional purposes are blurry, with air conditioning, but symbolic ones continue on strong in the east, the headgear removed only back in privacy of their own home.

Can the East-West accept each other’s cultural symbolism and use it as a learning opportunity, instead of seeing the head-gear with a presumptuous fear that it may be a mask to hide true identity of the wearer?

Enforcing wearer to remove it indoors to follow a western custom, cannot be done, because it isn’t fashion, it is seen as essential part of clothing, even personality. On the other hand, asking a westerner to start wearing head wraps in the east, would be dishonoring a guest, and I hope it’s never been done.

Summarizing in a couplet form:

“Western head gear, enjoy but tip, remove inside;

Eastern head-wraps, provide protection, wear on with pride.” Thinkinkadia

Video Link: Apr, 2016: Turban Day – A day when anybody wearing a Turban travels for free on the Airport Express in Norway! Beautiful video.


Are You Aware?

Are you aware how it feels to be,
To be changed by another, my Me.
Deliberately, repeatedly, insistently,
“Change. Convert. Try my way!”

The Me we build, nurture like a tree,
Slow and caring, lovingly daring,
To Be the one, you wanna be.
Are you aware, you hurt when you convert?

When someone walks their way, they find,
Not bind. When you say, “Try my way!”
You wrong the Me, I nurtured so long.
Be friends: You right, Me not wronged!

Holding hands, minds together some.
We say selfless lines, but self-love defines-
Our behaviour, our words, and meeting;
Search suggestion opportunity, miss the love fleeting.

Brother! Sister! Husband! Wife!
In religion, culture- cause not strife!
We talk of walking the path not taken,
Then why not, live and let live?!

Live and Let Live! Till change awakens!
Who knows? The right way, still not found-
might just be round the corner, unbound,
Of that unknown Path not taken.

Are you Aware?

Say NO!

I heard,
I’ve been heard.
I talked.
Others have talked.
I’ve acted.
Others have acted.
Now it’s time to help them in need,
With our hearing, them talking, and helpful action from everyone.

Say NO to WAR!
Conventional or unconventional.                                                               With guns or cheap improvised devices.
With explosives or germs.
Uniform or mesh appearance with the masses.
On our land or foreign lands.
Against any culture, religion, or our perception of a primitive tribe.

War is War is War: by any technique or brand.
Say: NO more.